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  aka

  evenn m worried abt tha same thing..!

  Should i tell them or not.??

   
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  Anon

  Thats the exact same reason i havent come out either

   
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  Anonymous

  If they are really your friends, they’ll believe and accept you no matter what.

   
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  Ella

  I’ve been thinking about this for a long time now. I have many gay friends who believe being bi is cheating, because they call it an escape goat if anyone tries to bash you for being a homosexual. But I believe its possible to love both genders. My best friend in the whole wide world also believes this, she’s bi, I’m the friend she was afriad to tell. And when she did we had a talk about what we both believe, it just made us even closer.
  If you’re scared that your friends won’t accept you than they aren’t your friends. I know that sounds cliche and you’ve probably heard it a trillion times before, but its the truth. Don’t sell yourself short. If your best friend is truely your best friend it won’t matter. Like me and my bff.

   
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  aka

  they r..! Bt.. Still tht friendship thing wont be there anymore..! n i dont want to losse them at anycost.! Wat to do.?????

   
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  Jamie B

  Keeping it bottled up isn’t a long-term solution. The truth, as they say, will out. Fortunately all my close friends were supportive, but a couple of people never spoke to me again. You just need to be prepared that you won’t get universal approval, and may have to weather some storms.
  But hey, you never know. They might just surprise you with their support. Some of my friends said they were honored that I would trust them with my secret.

   
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  Atlas

  I’m lucky to have friends that are very open to the whole alphabet, but I’m still worried about my family. A friend and I both figured that we would wait until we had girlfriends to tell because then we could prove that it was real (ps, we’ve both had boyfriends so that can’t say we’re closeted lesbians). The alphabet is longer than just G and L – LGBTQQAITP…..
  Love and gender are spectrums, they’re not black and white (look up Kinsey’s scale, might help)

   
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  i thought i’d lose a few friends but i didn’t, and if they don’t accept you their not your friends and you don’t need them ! it sounds cliche but it’s the truth, and anyway if they don’t accept you, they’re probbably homophobic and ,in my opinion, it’s impossible to be friends with a homophobe, wheter your straigt or not.
  p.s ^^ Bioshock much ?

   
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  Aye'

  I was afraid of telling my best friend in fear of being pushed away. In the end I was so afraid, I got my girlfriend to tell her. We had a chat about it, and she soon told me that she didn’t care what I was – I was still her best friend.
  I’m so glad I told her.

   
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  osiris

  I came out as bisexual and alot of my friends don’t believe bisexuality exists, but still accept me for who I am (even though they think it’s a stage). But it doesn’t matter wether they believe you or not either way.. it’s who you are and if they don’t accept it then they’re not your real friends.

   
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  Anonymous

  A lot of of friends don’t know Iam bi but only my closest ones do. If you dont feel comfortable telling them then dont, but youre true friends will understand

   
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  Sparrow

  I understand the feeling
  and I can’t stand people who say bisexuality doesn’t exist

   
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  new zealander :\

  me too. im 16, and i already know my best friend wont accept me. im not ready to lose her yet :\

   
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  adrian

  I’m 15 and i truly think im very smart! mostly becuase im very open minded and accepting! and im not very ignorant!

  will im also bi and i haven’t told any of my closes friends but what i did to ~come out~ was i changed my myspace status to bi and that why my cousins (3), my friends (4), my brother and sister can all see who i am im not telling them exactly but i hope me being bi will come up soon!

  but i still question my orientation! so im not sure!

  and good luck!!

   
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  Anonymous

  Sure plenty of people use bisexuality as something to hide behind or to seem interesting, but if you have taken the time to think it through and YOU know who you are that is all that matters.

  If they are your friends they will love you<3

   
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  someoneelse

  I think Adrian’s way of ‘coming out’ is great, you don’t need to make it such a big deal and then also your friends might believe it. Otherwise they might think you want just attention. But also on the myspace they might think you’re just joking..

   
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  ZIggy

  All my good friends know im attracted to either sex and still love me, if anything we’re closer friends. I had a friend tell me he was bi and two others have since told me they were gay.

   
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  Dragonfly

  I wish you luck and that you will always have someone who loves you for who you are.

   
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  blinkk

  for me it isn’t a matter of sex. I love the person, would it be She or He…

   
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  Anonymous

  I am bi.
  It’s worth it to come out.
  Either your friends are your friends, or not,
  and they need to understand who you are and what you’re going through.

   
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  Delaney

  all u can do is b u… no matter wat anyone says. i used to b bi and coming out was the best thing ive ever did.. gained more friends and dated more ppl… if ur happy with it do it dont listen to any negative ideas anyone has to say.. b ur true self

   
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  simple

  I have problems that i want to admit too but if i do and i loose my friends i am nuffink…. x

   
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  Anonymous

  You’ll be surprised by some people. The most dyed in the wool close-minded people didn’t even blink when I came out as lesbian to them. If they love you, they won’t be able to shun you.

   
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  Evil_Blondie

  I have the same huge problem.. My friends are homophobic, plus the people in my country aren’t open-minded && I don’t know what to do.. On the top of all that, I HAVE A BOYFRIEND, I LOVE HIM A LOT && I DON’T KNOW HOW TO TELL HIM ABOUT ALL THIS.. I can’t tell him, but the problem is, I can’t keep this inside for much longer.. It hurts.

   
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  Michiko

  I am afraid about that too so I’m going to tell them and hopefully they wont run away…. people tell me then they dont deserve you but I want them to.

   
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  Anoynomus

  I knw that feelin.. i also knw they would give me a heap of shit for it.. nd called me messed up nd crap…. most of them wouldnt talk to me….

   
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  hazel

  I know exactly how that feels..
  I’ve been hiding it for 2 years. Should I tell them….

   
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  ladyGAGO

  me too. im hiding this feeling for 5 years already… and my first love being a “bi”is with my best friend and she knows it.. but acting like she dont!

   
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  Anonymous

  im bi,
  i just came out this summer.
  i had a boyfriend when i came out.
  he accepted it
  most of my friends did too,
  the ones that found out anyways.
  i dont promote it
  im not ashamed.

  but my one friend didnt believe me.
  she thought i came out to make her jealous
  she thought i wanted her gf.

  believe me when i tell you,
  if they dont want to keep you around they arnt worth your time.

   
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  princess tears

  me too. i feel caged by it sometimes

   

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